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The formative years of a child is spent at home. While most
parents feel that the school is responsible for inculcating
in the child the rules of behavior, the fact is that the
parents are responsible for sowing the seeds that the
teachers have to reap. This means that right from the stage
of infancy till the child is ready to go to the school it is
up to the parents to teach children the basics of good
manners.
For instance, a child learns how to respect parents and
grandparents, as well as other elders they come in contact
with when they are taught at home. One of the methods of
teaching this important behavior is by explaining to them,
as well as parents themselves showing respect to their
elders and other aspects from
Indian culture. For instance, in Indian families it is a tradition
to seek the blessings of the elders everyday, when parents
do so, the children imitate them and seek blessings, too.
One of the problem areas for parents is the tantrums
children throw. Some parents get so harrowed by the violent
crying of their children that they end up giving into all
their whims and fancies. However, the parents need to
restrain these tantrum throwing tendencies, as well as the
stubbornness in children. This they can do by ignoring the
child when they start crying and demanding for something not
meant for them at that given time. It can be a painful
exercise, but it is a need in order to discipline the child.
The best way to tech children manners and good behavior is
by the play way method. Use toys to explain to the child how
they should behave. They should be told stories about
manners and discipline. The child must learn that there are
negative repercussions if he/she does not behave well.
Another effective tool is that sometimes the parents need to
behave like children themselves in order to explain to the
child. And the most important thing to remember is that in
the formative years, prior to full-day schooling parents are
the role model for the child. And so, it is important to
practice what one preaches. For instance, if a child is to
be told not to back answer elders, then it is important that
the elders, too respectfully talk to each other in front of
the child.
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